Stolen from the mouth of an (outside) woman! "His wife don't do the things that I do" " something is missing home that's why he keeps running to me", its cheaper to keep her, he doesn't want to hurt his wife by leaving, the list goes on and on! WOMEN WAKE UP! I am trying to stay on neutral grounds here. We (women) need to realize if u decide to get involve in these situations take it for face value! It's very rare that the outside woman becomes the wife! Most of the time the outside woman does not have the qualities to become the wife! This is a mental commitment: recite to yourself I expect nothing more than some stolen moments sex, a secluded party here and there, if u are lucky a phone call on holidays, and if you are smart enough (or if he's dumb enough) u might get a couple of dollars here and there. He may be bold enough to forbid you from having a man. I see it as boldness some see it as a gesture of love. Having once in my life been unfortunate/silly enough to be in the situation and that my strength is being tested by friends who are caught up in the rapture (voluntary or involuntary) it lead me to pen some etiquette for the outside woman! (Chicken soup for the misguided soul). Please note I am not supporting these activities but as a friend to many I am asked for advice or told some very heart aching scenario's.
1. If you and the man have an argument do not call his wife/girlfriend. She had nothing to do with it in the beginning and shouldn't have in the end. You are hurting the wrong person if you want to hurt him pelt a bottle and buss his head! Scratch his car! Do something that directly affects him, not his family! Does it really benefit you?
2. Don't get upset if he never takes you anywhere! You belong in the bedroom or car or whatever dark alley he takes you in.
3. Don't complain about time be grateful for the stolen moments you get!
4. Do not compare yourself to his wife! Reality check you are not her!
5. If u want him to stick around don't give him any headaches.(nagging).
6. Expect that you may not be the only outside woman.
7. Do not show up at any functions that he will be taking his wife! You will only hurt yourself! I guarantee he will not pay you any attention. It's the benefits of being a wifee!
8. Don't try to get close to any of his family members! They will only tell you what they think you want to hear and than you will end up buying their friendships!
