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I have been going through a host of transitions and neglected to post as often as I should. Apologies for those who had started to follow and got nothng new. Starting fresh...

The Independent Woman Syndrome

An independent woman knows what she feels, says what she really believes, and lives true to her own values. She owns her own power and looks out for herself. She is independent at all levels - she can make her own money, follow her own path, and be her own best friend. (internet definition)

Most women like to classify themselves as such including myself. As i get older I realize I retreat to this safe haven to cover up my own insecurities. If a relationship isn't going the right way I say "I don't need that person because I'm independent". If I hurt someone's feeling I say "I'm entitled to say what ever however I feel because I'm my own woman". Yes I make my own money but would I mind having someone around to spoil me rotten? NO.. Would I mind not having to do and think about every detail of my life? NO. Would I mind having someone there to confide in every night? NO.. The fact is I'm independent because I have to be.

I've recently started dating someone who reminded me that while I can take care of myself I love having someone around to take charge. Someone to ask their opinion on little things that i may already know the answer to.. Someone to confide in, someone who understands its OK to fall short at times.
I don't mind sharing my independence.